{"id":1871,"date":"2017-02-14T09:58:38","date_gmt":"2017-02-14T09:58:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/turnlightson.com\/?p=1871"},"modified":"2017-02-14T09:58:38","modified_gmt":"2017-02-14T09:58:38","slug":"confidence-like-owning-obedient-dog","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/turnlightson.com\/2017\/02\/confidence-like-owning-obedient-dog\/","title":{"rendered":"Why confidence is like owning an obedient dog!"},"content":{"rendered":"
I wrote the line ‘confidence is gained by giving’\u00a0in the\u00a0Turn Lights On book in 2013 and it has fascinated me ever since. \u00a0Most people think confidence is something to\u00a0<\/b>be found <\/b>and \u00a0hope to have more of it, but actually\u00a0we already have it inside of us.<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s look at ‘lack of confidence’, when there is a lack there is a sense of something missing that we need. Confidence has been inside me all my life however at times I have\u00a0 blocked it by putting myself down, stopped it growing by putting achievements down to luck and not talent, not accepted it by not seeing my good points\u00a0just my faults, doubted it by thinking it’s no big deal and avoided listening to myself, not valuing myself and my needs.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d like to share with you a few tips, tricks and lessons that I have learnt to enable me to be<\/strong> more confident. I constantly practice these to maintain my confidence as my beautiful fear hungry brain can turn at any time! Notice I use the word BE<\/strong>, we don\u2019t strive to it, we don\u2019t do confidence we are it! \u00a0We meet an\u00a0experience and step into the light and be<\/strong> confident. Like an obedient dog, confidence comes when you call. When the dog was a puppy he didn\u2019t sit, or stay, high five or roll over, he was taught through repetition and constant reminders of who’s the boss and his place in the pack.<\/p>\n I\u2019m no dog expert however I know doggies need plenty of<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Applying Love.<\/strong><\/p>\n Self love, appreciation for yourself will result in you standing your ground and saying and doing what you believe in. Be kind to yourself, fill yourself up with lovely thoughts and regular rewards, and celebrate your successes and potential. Then you are in a position to give and that’s when your confidence soars. Giving to others helps us let go of our needs and connect with others with is so powerful. When I\u2019ve been feeling under confident it can turn into all about ‘me, me me me’ – BORING! Giving can help me get out of my own way and help others, double whammy!<\/p>\n Food <\/strong><\/p>\n Learning, growing, understanding and looking in the mirror. Self awareness of who you really are. Facing up to some harsh realities about yourself but accepting them to become you.<\/p>\n Discipline<\/strong><\/p>\n The boring stuff. \u00a0Repetition is the mother of skill, this is why we have the 21 moments programme. I created something that you do everyday to build up these habit. If I think of the successful people I know their life is filled with positive habits.\u00a0 Doing small things every day, bit by bit. Whether this is yoga, running or having a gratitude list it all supports you to keep positive habits resulting in positive experiences.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Confidence is gained by giving to yourself and others but it really starts from you. Don\u2019t expect that obedient dog to come to the rescue when you have\u2019t given him food or love and this is the same for your confidence.<\/p>\n I have thought many times I wish I could bottle confidence and drink it when I need it, on occasions I have thought confidence\u00a0came in the shape of a large Gin and Tonic but really there is no instant solution, it is a practice and it is something which can leave you if you don\u2019t keep up the good work. I noticed this last year when things were tough for me. It is easy to slip and then you start to see the fruits of your labour not being plentiful and beautiful.<\/p>\n So I will leave you with some thoughts and questions I would love for you\u00a0to think about for a day and introduce. \u00a0I would also love your comments on these<\/p>\n Thanks for reading,<\/p>\n Love George<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Like an obedient dog confidence comes when you call. I wrote the line ‘confidence is gained by giving’\u00a0in the\u00a0Turn Lights On book in 2013 and it has fascinated me ever…<\/p>\n\n
How can we be more dog?<\/h1>\n
Confidence is gained by giving<\/h1>\n
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